Monday, 29 January 2024

Wanting to be More Horny




Following from our ‘horny all the time’ podcast, this podcast explores what we might do if we are wanting to be more horny.



The first big question if you feel this way is ‘why?’ There’s so much pressure in wider culture to be horny and sexual that it’s really hard to step outside that cultural script and decide whether it’s something you really want for yourself, or more something you feel you should be. Also it’s easy for people in our lives to put pressure on us to be as horny as they are – especially if we have a sexual relationship.

The most important thing here is that it is really okay not to be horny ever. It’s also okay to only be horny some of the time, or only a bit horny. There is so much to be learnt from asexual communities here about the fact it is fine not to experience sexual attraction or sexual desire, or to only experience them very occasionally, or only in certain situations.

Consent is vital. It’s really important not to do anything sexual that we don’t want to do because we feel like we should. Not only is it damaging to be treated – or to treat ourselves – non-consensually, it will most likely leave us feeling even less horny or interested in sex than we were before.

If you are aware of all of that and would still like to feel horny more of the time, then you might want to reflect on horniness as a biopsychosocial thing. What aspects of your body and brain (bio), your experiences through life (psycho), and the culture around you (social) contribute to your horniness – and your experiences of erotic stuff more generally? What might you do on all of those levels to invite more horniness? For example, for bio you might think about times of day you feel more relaxed or available for horniness and focus on those times, or situations your body feels most comfortable in – or in less pain. You might get your hormone levels checked out or find toys that stimulate you most. For psycho you might reflect on good and bad past sexual experiences and find ways to incorporate the better ones into your current sexual times. You might do our Make Your Own Sex Manual zine to tune into your sexual desires. For social you might cultivate friendships and community where you can talk about this stuff with likeminded people, or go to events or workshops where you can learn in a culture that invites consent and horniness.

Being present to flickers of horniness is important: cultivating micro-moments of horniness when you have them and fanning the flame by allowing yourself to explore them. You might invite more erotica, porn, fantasy, or playing with bodily sensations into your solo sex, or sex with other people. It’s also important not to be aiming at a certain kind of sex/bodily experience like erection or orgasm. Again this makes those things – and horniness itself – less likely to happen.

If you’re sexual with another person it’s important to remember that it’s fine and normal to have discrepancies and fluctuations in your levels of horniness. There’s lots about how to navigate that in our book and zines.

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Όταν αναγνωρίζουμε τα λάθη μας, μαθαίνουμε πολλά στα παιδιά μας: Οι φράσεις που μπορούμε να πούμε μετά τη “συγγνώμη”
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Όταν ζητάμε συγγνώμη, χτίζουμε την εμπιστοσύνη που έχουμε σε μια σχέση. Αυτή είναι η βάση κάθε υγιούς σχέση. Γιατί να μην το κάνουμε και με τα παιδιά μας;

Αναγνωρίζοντας τα λάθη μας, μαθαίνουμε πολλά στα παιδιά μας. Τους δείχνουμε ότι μετά από κάθε λάθος, μπορούμε να διορθώσουμε τα πράγματα. Δείχνουμε ότι κι εμείς κάνουμε λάθη, κανείς δεν είναι τέλειος. Και δείχνουμε ότι αν πληγώσαμε τα συναισθήματά μας, έχει αξία για εμάς να τα βοηθήσουμε.

Αναλαμβάνοντας την ευθύνη, μαθαίνουμε τα παιδιά μας να είναι υπεύθυνα και δημιουργούμε μια σύνδεση μαζί τους. Έτσι μαθαίνουν να επικοινωνούν, να έχουν ενσυναίσθηση, ώστε μια μέρα ως ενήλικες να μπορούν να δημιουργήσουν υγιείς σχέσεις.

Μετά τη “συγγνώμη” μπορούμε να τους πούμε:



“Δεν το χειρίστηκα καλά. Την επόμενη φορά θα προσπαθήσω να ηρεμήσω πριν αντιδράσω”
“Σε ευχαριστώ που με βοήθησες να καταλάβω πόσο σε πλήγωσε η συμπεριφορά μου. Συγγνώμη”.
“Θέλεις να μιλήσουμε για αυτό που έγινε;Τα συναισθήματά σου είναι σημαντικά για μένα”
“Μπορείς να μου μιλήσεις για ό,τι έγινε. Είσαι ασφαλής μαζί μου”


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Thursday, 25 January 2024

Οι 10 φάσεις κρίσης από τις οποίες περνά κάθε οικογένεια


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Θα ήθελα να περιγράψω τις κύριες φυσιολογικές φάσεις κρίσεως απ’τις οποίες περνάει μια οικογένεια, καθώς ωριμάζουν τα μέλη της. Όλες αυτές οι φάσεις σημαίνουν κρίση και παροδική ανησυχία και έχουν ανάγκη μιας περιόδου προσαρμογής και αφομοιώσεων.
Η πρώτη κρίση είναι η σύλληψη, η εγκυμοσύνη και η γέννηση ενός παιδιού.
Η δεύτερη κρίση έρχεται, όταν το παιδί αρχίζει να χρησιμοποιεί τον ευνόητο λόγο.

Λίγοι άνθρωποι συνειδητοποιούν πόσο μεγάλη προσαρμογή απαιτείται γι’αυτό.
Η τρίτη κρίση έρχεται, όταν το παιδί συνδέεται για πρώτη φορά επίσημα με τον κόσμο έξω απ’το σπίτι, δηλαδή με το σχολείο.

Μπαίνει ο κόσμος του σχολείου στην οικογένεια, φέρνοντας ένα στοιχείο ολότελα καινούριο, τόσο για τους γονείς, όσο και για τα παιδιά. Οι δάσκαλοι γενικά, αποτελούν γονικές προεκτάσεις, γεγονός που, όσο πρόθυμα κι αν το παραδέχεσαι, απαιτεί ωστόσο μια περίοδο προσαρμογής.
Η τέταρτη κρίση, που είναι κι εξαιρετικά μεγάλη, έρχεται, όταν το παιδί μπαίνει στην εφηβεία.
Η πέμπτη κρίση είναι όταν το παιδί ενηλικιώνεται και φεύγει απ’το σπίτι, γυρεύοντας την ανεξαρτησία του.

Αυτό συνοδεύεται συχνά από τη συναίσθηση κάποιας βαριάς απώλειας.


Η έκτη κρίση έρχεται, όταν ο νεαρός ενήλικος παντρεύεται και τα πεθερικά γίνονται τα ξένα εκείνα στοιχεία που πρέπει να τα δεχτεί η οικογένεια.
Η έβδομη είναι ο ερχομός της εμμηνόπαυσης στη γυναίκα.
Η όγδοη, που ονομάζεται κλιμακτήριος, περιλαμβάνει και τη μειωμένη ερωτική δραστηριότητα του αρσενικού.

Αυτό δεν είναι σωματικό πρόβλημα. Η κρίση στον άντρα φαίνεται να συνδέεται περισσότερο με τη συναίσθηση ότι χάνει τη σεξουαλική του δύναμη.

Η ένατη έρχεται με το ρόλο του παππού ή της γιαγιάς, που είναι γεμάτος προνόμια και παγίδες.
Τέλος, η δέκατη έρχεται, όταν ο θάνατος βρει τον έναν από τους συζύγους κι έπειτα τον άλλο.

Η οικογένεια είναι η μόνη απ’ όσες κοινωνικές ομάδες ξέρω, όπου συμβιβάζονται τόσες πολλές αλλαγές σε τόσο λίγο χώρο και χρόνο.

Όταν τρεις ή τέσσερις από αυτές τις κρίσεις συμβαίνουν συγχρόνως, η ζωή μπορεί να γίνει πραγματικά έντονη και περισσότερο “μπελαλίδικη” απ’ ό,τι συνήθως. Υπάρχουν όμως πολλές πιθανότητες, αν καταλάβεις τι συμβαίνει, να χαλαρώσεις λίγο. Μπορείς μάλιστα να διακρίνεις καθαρά ποιες κατευθύνσεις να ακολουθήσεις για να πετύχεις τις αλλαγές. Θέλω να τονίσω πως αυτές είναι φυσιολογικές, φυσικές πιέσεις και μπορούν κατά κανόνα να προβλεφτούν. Μην κάνεις το λάθος να τις θεωρήσεις ανώμαλες καταστάσεις.

Η αλλαγή και η διαφοροποίηση αποτελούν πάγιους, φυσιολογικούς και υγιείς παράγοντες σε κάθε οικογένεια. Αν τα μέλη της οικογένειας δεν περιμένουν αλλαγές ή δεν προετοιμάζονται για τις διαφορές που ξαφνικά εμφανίζονται, διατρέχουν τον κίνδυνο να σπάσουν τα μούτρα τους, γιατί περιμένουν ομοιογένεια εκεί που δεν υπάρχει. Οι άνθρωποι γεννιούνται, μεγαλώνουν, δουλεύουν, παντρεύονται, κάνουν παιδιά, γερνάνε και πεθαίνουν. Αυτή είναι η ανθρώπινη ζωή.

Απόσπασμα από το βιβλίο της Βιρτζίνια Σατίρ Πλάθοντας ανθρώπους

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Wednesday, 24 January 2024

Psychology is improving brain health and aging



Researchers are developing new interventions that can help prevent, identify, and manage cognitive decline
By Ashley AbramsonDate created: January 1, 20248 min read


Vol. 55 No. 1
Print version: page 84



[This article is part of the 2024 Trends Report]


With an increasing percentage of Americans aging into the over-65 category, there is a growing need for science-based therapies to help slow, prevent, and treat the cognitive changes that can affect people’s aging brains. At the same time, geropsychologists, who specialize in treating older adults, are in short supply: APA estimates that the United States will need nearly 6,000 more of these specialists by 2030.

To support the expanding need to maintain and improve brain health, researchers are developing interventions that can help prevent, recognize, and treat mild cognitive impairment, dementia, and Alzheimer’s disease.

Here are four recent developments in the field of brain health that carry the potential to dramatically improve our quality of life as we age.

Slow-paced breathing interventions


Sympathetic nervous system activity, associated with the stress response, tends to be higher in older adults—and it’s linked with an increased risk of dementia. Researchers are studying how to help adults flip the nervous system’s switch from stress to relaxation.

Biofeedback exercises involving slow-paced breathing are one way to modulate heart rate and potentially prevent the sympathetic system from negatively impacting the brain, according to Mara Mather, PhD, a professor of gerontology, psychology, and biomedical engineering at the University of Southern California.

In a clinical trial, Mather and her collaborators studied breathing interventions in adults between 65 and 80 years old with the goal of increasing heart rate variability, a measure of parasympathetic activity. Those who practiced slow-paced breathing to a metronome until they achieved deep relaxation had lower rates of anxiety and depression than the steady breathing group. In their blood, they also had lower levels of amyloid-beta, a small peptide that can accumulate in the brain to form the amyloid plaque which is one defining feature of Alzheimer’s disease (Scientific Reports, Vol. 13, 2023).

While manipulating heart rate variability clearly impacts Alzheimer’s biomarkers outside of the brain, researchers do not yet know how it affects the brain itself. Mather’s lab is working on a second clinical trial exploring how manipulating heart rate variability can impact the brain itself through examining MRIs.

In the same study, older adults who participated in the slow breathing intervention also showed increased volume in subregions of the hippocampus, a part of the brain that is critical for memory processes and shows declines early in the Alzheimer’s disease process (Neurobiology of Aging, 2023). Mather’s work suggests that focusing on reducing stress through breathing could be an intervention to prevent or slow Alzheimer’s progression—and it’s something anyone can do.

“Slow-paced breathing may be able to slow the early stages of Alzheimer’s disease in adults who are still cognitively healthy,” said Mather. “If so, this simple relaxing technique could be a low-cost and low-risk way to reduce risk of the disease.”


Smartphone tools and training


As technology advances, so does evidence that effectively using it can help people cope with the impact of cognitive decline—and even help prevent it. Michael K. Scullin, PhD, associate professor of psychology and neuroscience at Baylor University in Waco, Texas, helped develop a behavioral randomized controlled trial to train people between 55 to 92 years old with mild dementia to use smartphones.

The researchers focused on helping participants set recurring appointment reminders as a way to improve quality of life. “People affected by dementia often have a challenge with prospective memory, or the ability to remember to do things in the future,” Scullin said. In his study, care partners—such as the participant’s spouse, adult child, younger relative, or hired nurse—reported that participants with cognitive decline had improved independent functioning across a month timespan (Journal of the American Geriatrics Society, Vol. 70, 2022).

Scullin’s team recently received funding for a Phase 2 trial of 200 participants over 6 months. Half of the participants are from digitally disadvantaged backgrounds, such as rural areas without internet access or homes without computers. “We want to know how to use these devices in a way that’s most effective at preserving daily functioning and overall health in individuals living with diseases,” said Scullin.

While Scullin’s work focuses on improving quality of life in those with impaired cognition, he theorizes using digital devices can also be a protective factor in cognitive health, contributing to a cognitive reserve in aging people—the more mentally active someone is, the more likely their cognitive abilities will be preserved (Wolff, J. L, et al., Journal of the American Geriatrics Society, Vol. 69, No. 7, 2021). Technology also encourages social connection, which can promote better cognition, and provides ways to better cope with daily difficulties, such as forgetting about appointments or medication.

Andrew Kiselica, PhD, assistant professor of health psychology at the University of Missouri, also studies smartphone use among aging people with cognitive impairment. He received a career development award from the National Institute on Aging to develop an intervention that helps patients and their caregivers access affordable technology and implement individualized technology-based solutions to reach care goals. To do so, the intervention includes occupational therapy strategies to help people choose, set up, and troubleshoot their technologies. In this way, caretakers can choose the technologies that best work for them. For example, caretakers might use a shared calendar with their loved ones to remind them of appointments, lightening their own caregiving load. The intervention can be delivered by any master’s-level behavioral or occupational health provider.

Kiselica is seeking funding for a feasibility trial to take place through the broader University of Missouri health system. He’s also working on a pilot study with collaborators from the University of Missouri Extension’s health and wellness program for older adults involving a tech-focused intervention that helps people glean cognitive benefits from smart technologies before they develop symptoms of cognitive impairment.

Virtual brain games


Adam Gazzaley, MD, PhD, founder of Neuroscape, a translational neuroscience center for technology creation and scientific research, sees technology as a form of medicine for cognitive decline. “We don’t have perfect drugs; some people don’t respond and they have side effects. My goal is to come up with [effective technologies] and validate them,” he said.

Gazzaley, a professor in neurology, physiology, and psychiatry at the University of California, San Francisco, focuses on creating and studying therapeutic tablet-based and virtual reality games that improve attention ability. Some studies focus on older adults, homing in on the evidence that games can improve cognitive function that often declines with age (Nature Aging, Vol. 2, 2022). The video games Neuroscape creates are adaptive, closed-loop games, which means the challenges and rewards adjust in real time based on ability according to user data, unlike most consumer games. If someone answers questions slowly, the games start out easier and progressively get more difficult. If someone needs more of a challenge, the game follows suit.

One game developed and studied at Neuroscape is Neuroracer, a video game that was shown to improve attention in older adults (Nature, Vol. 501, 2013). It is the first and only FDA-authorized treatment delivered through a video game experience. Some of Neuroscape’s games are in the research phase, but Gazzaley hopes to eventually scale them so medical providers can either prescribe them or patients can use them over the counter in tandem with psychological treatment. “We’ll have a whole set of technological tools that will complement standard approaches, like pharmaceuticals and behavioral therapy,” he said.

Digital cognitive assessments


Games can be useful to help preserve cognition, but some people may benefit more from nongamified cognition tasks. “For some people, games can provide motivational structure,” said Aaron Seitz, PhD, professor of psychology at Northeastern University in Boston and director of the Brain Game Center for Mental Fitness and Well-Being at the University of California, Riverside. “But for others, it may be overwhelming or distracting to see all these things happening on a screen, and then the game isn’t as helpful,” he added.

Seitz’s work focuses on creating digital apps that measure individual differences in cognition—for example, how well someone can accomplish tasks that involve distractions—and suggesting potentially beneficial interventions, games, or otherwise. His goal is to better understand how factors like cognition, lifestyle, cultural experiences, and overall health affect how people interact with different interventions. That way, he and his team can better predict the most useful individual treatments.

Seitz’s lab has created several games designed to address individual needs. One memory app he is currently studying is called Recollect, available for free in the Apple and Android app stores. Recollect requires users to employ their working memory to recall a series of colors presented on the screen. Another version of Recollect has the same premise, but it uses an astronaut collecting colored gems in space.

The lab has also created digital assessments that could be useful to psychologists and other clinicians, such as an app called PART (portable adaptive rapid testing) that evaluates focused attention and working memory. Rather than going to a clinic or hospital, people will be able to participate in cognitive testing at home on their devices. Currently, the app is available for free to researchers studying cognition, but Seitz hopes to share it publicly in the future.

This type of testing also allows clinicians to gain a deeper understanding of a person’s cognition because it tracks how long it takes for someone to answer a question and whether they change their response. “Digitizing assessments doesn’t just get rid of paper but also helps the clinician collect more useful data to help the person on an individual level,” said Seitz.

Given all the progress in research about cognition and the aging brain, there is reason to be hopeful about the future. These and other brain researchers are looking forward to fine tuning and scaling up their interventions so that more people can access resources that benefit their brain function before they develop cognitive impairment.

“Alzheimer’s pathology accumulates in a person’s brain for many decades, so it’s important to slow that down as much as possible,” said Mather. “Interventions that healthy people can do in their 50s or even earlier could be really beneficial and exciting.”

Further reading


Digital methods for performing daily tasks among older adults: An initial report of frequency of use and perceived utility
Benge, J. F., et al., Experimental Aging Research, 2023

Does ‘brain training’ actually work?
Jaeggi, S. M., et al., Scientific American, 2020

Integrated cognitive and physical fitness training enhances attention abilities in older adults
Anguera, J. A., et al., NPJ Aging, 2022

Leisure-time sedentary behaviors are differentially associated with all-cause dementia regardless of engagement in physical activity
Raichlen, D. A., et al., PNAS Psychological and Cognitive Sciences, 2022

The integrity of dopaminergic and noradrenergic brain regions is associated with different aspects of late-life memory performance
Dahl, M. J., et al., Nature Aging, 2023


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12 emerging trends for 2024


What’s ahead for psychologists in the coming year?


In 2024, psychology will play a major role in pointing the way toward a healthier, more just society




2024 will be a pivotal year for psychology. The U.S. presidential campaign, already infected with misinformation, needs psychological science’s debunking and prebunking strategies. Generative artificial intelligence—unleashed upon society with few guardrails—will desperately require social science insights as it progresses along its exciting and uncertain trajectory.

The ongoing crisis in mental health care access, the trauma for women and LGBTQ+ individuals whose bodily autonomy is threatened by ongoing legislation, and the backlash against racial equity work present unprecedented challenges and opportunities over the next year. There is hope though as mental health technology enters a second wave of investment, clinicians continue to innovate to reach more patients, new strategies to end addiction make promising headway, and neuroscience helps us to discover ways to protect brain health and treat brutal afflictions like Alzheimer’s.

Join us in exploring these 12 trends.

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