Saturday, 27 December 2025

To change minds at Christmas dinner, keep it civil


People underestimate how much their attitudes soften during civil debates, and misjudge how much common ground they share with those of differing opinions, according to a new study

19 December 2025

By Emma Young


There's nothing like a Christmas family gathering for bringing colliding opinions together in an explosive mix. But does it have to be that way? And can a 'civil discussion' between two people with radically different views actually change either person's thinking?

The answer, according to a recent paper in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, is yes. Michael Kardas at the University of Wisconsin-Madison also found that people hold back from discussing differences of opinion, because they mistakenly believe that such conversations will be pointless.

In the first of a series of online studies, 154 US-based participants first rated the extent to which they believed cats or dogs make a better pet. They then spent ten minutes discussing their opinions with another participant who felt differently. Before this conversation started, they were asked to predict how likely it was that their attitude, or the other person's, would change as a result.

The team's analysis of the results showed that participants underestimated not only how much their own and their partner's attitudes would soften, but also the extent to which these changes in their partner's attitude would be apparent. When the team then followed up with the participants a week later, they found that the changes in attitude had persisted.

In a second study, 100 US-based participants who either supported or opposed 'cancel culture' briefly shared their beliefs with a partner who felt differently, then the pair had a ten-minute conversation about their reasoning.

Again, these participants underestimated how much their own and their partner's attitudes would depolarise. The researchers' analysis of more detailed responses to questionnaires revealed the individual aspects of this: the participants under-estimated how much they would agree with each other's reasons, how hard they would try to understand each other and how receptive they would be to the other perspective. They also overestimated how hard their partner would try to defend their own perspective and try to persuade them to feel the same way. (Again, the team found that changes in attitude after the conversation were still present a week on.)

A third study revealed another reason why people with opposing attitudes — in this case, on cancel culture — underestimated their agreement. Though these pairs presumed that their attitudes differed because of a fundamental disagreement about cancel culture itself, it turned out to be more because they were thinking about different individual examples. When they were given some other cases of people who had been 'cancelled' to discuss, they tended to discover unexpected areas of agreement.

In further studies, including some with participants based in the UK, the team found yet more evidence that people underestimate how much their attitudes would soften during a conversation, and overlooked "differences in how they were construing an issue that conversation could bridge rapidly".

This work has a few limitations, including the fact that all the participants were based in the US or UK and, as the authors note, earlier studies suggest that people from Eastern cultures have more tolerance for ideas that appear to contain contradictions. This might make them more open to the idea that people with different attitudes can find common ground.

However, this work does contribute the growing body of work showing that we tend to have misguidedly pessimistic beliefs about how well conversations with other people will go. It also holds some specific lessons — in that it "reveals that mis-calibrated expectations can create an unnecessary barrier to civil discourse, leaving people with diverse points of view more divided, more polarised and less informed than they otherwise would be," the researchers write.

The key adjective in this sentence, of course, is "civil". But if you can manage to keep this year's Christmas family discussions from spiralling into rows, you might find that discoveries of at least some common ground lead to less conflict in future.

Read the paper in full:
Kardas, M., Nordgren, L., & Rucker, D. (2025). Unnecessarily divided: Civil conversations reduce attitude polarization more than people expect. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. Advance online publication. https://doi.org/10.1037/pspa0000469


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Sunday, 21 December 2025

Αυτές είναι οι παιδικές αναμνήσεις που χτίζουν τον ενήλικα που θα γίνει το παιδί σου



Οι παιδικές αναμνήσεις δεν είναι τυχαίες. Έρευνα εξηγεί πώς διαμορφώνουν τον ενήλικα που γινόμαστε και τι μπορείς να κάνεις ως γονιός.

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Από τα πρώτα πράγματα που θα ζητήσει ο ψυχολόγος σε μια συνεδρία είναι να επιστρέψουμε νοερά στην παιδική μας ηλικία. Όχι από νοσταλγία, φυσικά, αλλά γιατί οι παιδικές αναμνήσεις αποτελούν βασικό δομικό υλικό της ενήλικης ψυχολογίας μας. Αυτό που θυμόμαστε –και κυρίως ο τρόπος που το θυμόμαστε– επηρεάζει τον τρόπο με τον οποίο αντιλαμβανόμαστε τον εαυτό μας, τους άλλους και τον κόσμο γύρω μας.

Αυτό ακριβώς εξέτασε μια μελέτη του 2018 που δημοσιεύθηκε στο επιστημονικό περιοδικό Health Psychology. Ο επικεφαλής συγγραφέας, William J. Chopik, μελέτησε τη σύνδεση ανάμεσα στις πρώιμες παιδικές αναμνήσεις και την ψυχική υγεία, την ευεξία και τη συνολική ικανοποίηση από τη ζωή στην ενήλικη ηλικία.


Η έρευνα έδειξε ότι η μνήμη δεν είναι απλώς αποθήκη γεγονότων. Παίζει ζωτικό ρόλο στον τρόπο με τον οποίο οργανώνουμε τις εμπειρίες του παρελθόντος και, κατ’ επέκταση, στον τρόπο που αποφασίζουμε πώς θα δράσουμε στο μέλλον. Οι παιδικές αναμνήσεις λειτουργούν σαν φίλτρο μέσα από το οποίο ερμηνεύουμε το παρόν και χτίζουμε προσδοκίες για το αύριο.









Οι παιδικές αναμνήσεις που μας διαμορφώνουν στην ενήλικη ζωή

Ένα από τα βασικά ευρήματα της μελέτης είναι ότι τα άτομα που διατηρούν θετικές, ασφαλείς ή συναισθηματικά υποστηρικτικές παιδικές αναμνήσεις εμφανίζουν υψηλότερα επίπεδα ψυχικής ευεξίας στην ενήλικη ζωή. Δεν πρόκειται απαραίτητα για τα "τέλεια" παιδικά χρόνια, αλλά για αναμνήσεις που συνοδεύονται από αίσθημα ασφάλειας, αποδοχής και φροντίδας. Αυτά τα βιώματα φαίνεται να συνδέονται με χαμηλότερα επίπεδα άγχους και κατάθλιψης και με μεγαλύτερη συναισθηματική ανθεκτικότητα.

Ιδιαίτερη σημασία έχει το γεγονός ότι η έρευνα δεν εστιάζει μόνο στο τι συνέβη αντικειμενικά, αλλά στο πώς το άτομο θυμάται και νοηματοδοτεί τις εμπειρίες του. Η συναισθηματική ποιότητα της ανάμνησης –και όχι απλώς το γεγονός καθαυτό– είναι αυτή που φαίνεται να επηρεάζει την ενήλικη ψυχολογία. Με άλλα λόγια, οι αναμνήσεις δεν είναι παθητικές εικόνες του παρελθόντος, αλλά ενεργά κομμάτια της ταυτότητάς μας.


Οι γονείς δεν "φτιάχνουμε αναμνήσεις" με πρόθεση, αλλά με παρουσία

Η μελέτη του Chopik έρχεται να επιβεβαιώσει κάτι που συχνά διαισθητικά αντιλαμβανόμαστε: Οι πρώτες μας εμπειρίες αφήνουν ένα αποτύπωμα που διαρκεί. Οι παιδικές αναμνήσεις δεν μας ακολουθούν απλώς αλλά μας διαμορφώνουν ως ενήλικες. Και ίσως γι’ αυτό η κατανόηση, η επεξεργασία και –όπου χρειάζεται– η επανερμηνεία τους αποτελεί βασικό βήμα όχι μόνο στην ψυχοθεραπεία, αλλά και στην προσωπική μας εξέλιξη ως ενήλικες.
Πώς μπορούμε να δημιουργήσουμε για τα παιδιά μας όμορφες αναμνήσεις

Με βάση τα ευρήματα της έρευνας του 2018, υπάρχουν ορισμένες συνθήκες που ευνοούν τη δημιουργία θετικών και υποστηρικτικών αναμνήσεων, οι οποίες φαίνεται να συνοδεύουν το άτομο και στην ενήλικη ζωή.Δημιούργησε αίσθημα ασφάλειας στην καθημερινότητα

Η έρευνα δείχνει ότι οι αναμνήσεις που συνδέονται με συναισθηματική ασφάλεια έχουν ισχυρό θετικό αποτύπωμα. Η σταθερότητα, η προβλεψιμότητα και η αίσθηση ότι το παιδί είναι προστατευμένο ενισχύουν αυτό το αίσθημα.Δώσε σημασία στη συναισθηματική ποιότητα των στιγμών, όχι στην τελειότητα

Δεν είναι τα "μεγάλα" γεγονότα που καθορίζουν τις αναμνήσεις, αλλά το πώς βιώνονται συναισθηματικά. Μια απλή, καθημερινή στιγμή με παρουσία και αποδοχή μπορεί να αποτυπωθεί πιο βαθιά από μια εντυπωσιακή εμπειρία χωρίς σύνδεση.Ανταποκρίσου στα συναισθήματα του παιδιού, ακόμη και στα δύσκολα

Όταν το παιδί νιώθει ότι τα συναισθήματά του αναγνωρίζονται και δεν απορρίπτονται, οι αναμνήσεις που δημιουργούνται έχουν υποστηρικτικό χαρακτήρα. Αυτό συνδέεται με μεγαλύτερη συναισθηματική ανθεκτικότητα αργότερα στη ζωή.Καλλιέργησε στιγμές σύνδεσης

Η έρευνα υπογραμμίζει τη σημασία των σχέσεων. Αναμνήσεις που συνδέονται με αποδοχή, φροντίδα και κοινό χρόνο φαίνεται να έχουν μεγαλύτερη επίδραση στην ενήλικη ευεξία από εκείνες που βασίζονται αποκλειστικά στην επιτυχία ή στην επίδοση.Δεν υπάρχει μία στιγμή που "καθορίζει τα πάντα"

Οι παιδικές αναμνήσεις διαμορφώνονται μέσα από επαναλαμβανόμενα μοτίβα εμπειριών. Η συνέπεια στη στάση, στη φροντίδα και στην επικοινωνία είναι αυτή που αφήνει το πιο σταθερό αποτύπωμα.

Η έρευνα υπενθυμίζει ότι δεν "φτιάχνεις αναμνήσεις" με πρόθεση, αλλά με παρουσία. Πολλές από τις στιγμές που σήμερα σου μοιάζουν μικρές ή ασήμαντες, μπορεί αύριο να αποτελούν τον πυρήνα του τρόπου με τον οποίο το παιδί σου θα θυμάται τον εαυτό του και τη ζωή του.

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What is gender mainstreaming



Gender mainstreaming has been embraced internationally as a strategy towards realising gender equality. It involves the integration of a gender perspective into the preparation, design, implementation, monitoring and evaluation of policies, regulatory measures and spending programmes, with a view to promoting equality between women and men, and combating discrimination.

Key concepts
Why is it important?
Who is responsible for gender mainstreaming?
How does it work?
Dimensions of gender mainstreaming


Gender mainstreaming requires both integrating a gender perspective to the content of the different policies, and addressing the issue of representation of women and men in the given policy area.

Both dimensions – gender representation and gender responsive content - need to be taken into consideration in all phases of the policy-making process.


The different components of gender mainstreaming



Gender representation in policy areas

Addressing the issue of representation means looking at the representation of women and men as policy beneficiaries, as well as their representation in the labour force and in the decision making processes.
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Gender responsive content of the policies

Although numbers are important, it is pertinent to also consider how gender relates to the content of policy measures, to gain a better understanding of how women and men would benefit from them. A gender responsive policy ensures that the needs of all citizens, women and men, are equally addressed.
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Enabling conditions for gender mainstreaming

An effective implementation of gender mainstreaming requires preparation and organisation. People in decision-making positions can make a particular difference here, as they have more power to introduce changes.
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Gender Mainstreaming Cycle
A practical guide to integrating the gender perspective into a policy/programming cycle

Integrating the gender perspective in a policy means that equality between women and men, as the overarching principle, should be taken into consideration in all decisions, in each phase of the policy-making process, by all the actors involved.

The policy process is understood as a multi-stage cycle, including defining, planning, implementing and checking (monitoring and evaluating). In many cases, these stages are turned into a cycle, with each step being repeated as changes occur. For example, when a policy is evaluated, it may reveal new problems that need to be addressed for re-programming.

The gender mainstreaming cycle presented here can be adjusted to different public policy/programming processes. The chart below refers to the specific stages of the cycle and the necessary elements that need to be given attention within each stage. Specific gender mainstreaming methods and tools that should be used within each of the cycle stages are also included. Some methods and tools, such as consulting with stakeholders or providing gender equality training to the actors involved, can be useful in more than one stage. Moreover, it is important to remember that when dealing with data they should be sex-disaggregated. EIGE’s Gender Statistics Database is a useful tool that can be used to find reliable, comparable and up-to-date information on equality between women and men.

EIGE’s collection of good practices should also be consulted as it contains examples of proven approaches, policies and practices that have been effective in the implementation of gender mainstreaming strategies in the EU Member States.

For more information on the different stages of the gender mainstreaming cycle, click on each phase.
Define Tools
Gender statistics
Gender analysis
Gender impact assessment
Gender stakeholders consultation
Plan Tools
Gender budgeting
Gender Procurement
Gender indicators



Click on a phase for details
Act Tools
Gender equality training
Gender-sensitive institutional transformation
Gender awareness-raising
Check Tools
Gender monitoring
Gender evaluation


The EU approach to gender mainstreaming



Gender mainstreaming is not a policy goal in itself, but a means to achieve gender equality. Equality between women and men is recognised by the EU as a fundamental right, a common value of the EU, and a necessary condition for the achievement of the EU objectives of growth, employment and social cohesion.


Since 1996, the Commission committed itself to a ‘dual approach’ towards realising gender equality. This approach involves mainstreaming a gender perspective in all policies, while also implementing specific measures to eliminate, prevent or remedy gender inequalities. Both approaches go hand in hand, and one cannot replace the other.

Browse through our Timeline to discover the milestones of gender equality in the EU.

Timeline


Want to know more?
European Commission policy documents
Gender Mainstreaming Resources from the European Commission
Gender Mainstreaming Resources from other institutions / governments
Other resources
About this Platform

The European Institute for Gender Equality created this Platform on Gender Mainstreaming to support the EU institutions and governmental bodies with the integration of a gender perspective in their work.

This online Platform provides insights on the relevance of gender in a variety of policy areas. It also suggests what EU officials and civil servants in the EU countries can practically do to take account of gender aspects in their daily tasks and responsibilities.

This online Platform helps to improve individual competences to mainstream gender throughout the different stages of the process of policy/programme/project development and implementation. Understanding how to design, plan, implement, monitor and evaluate policies from a gender perspective will strengthen EU policies, increase their societal relevance and responsiveness.

The focus of this online Platform is on gender as a social category. Gender as a social concept is always linked to and interwoven with other social categories like ethnicity, age, religion, sexual orientation, disability, or health status.

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Monday, 15 December 2025

The mind’s dark night of the soul



Fabian-Xosé Fernandez on what goes on in our heads after midnight…

18 November 2025


It is 3am, and Sarah sits alone on her couch, staring at the dim glow of the television. The remote feels weightless in her hand as she flips through channels with mechanical detachment, her fingers moving without thought, her eyes unfocused. The sound from the screen hums in the background – distant, failing to drown out the storm in her mind. She is not watching; she is merely existing, hollow, caught in the liminal space between exhausted resignation and restless agitation.

Sarah's thoughts are heavy with the weight of her recent divorce – a sense of loss that stalks her, gnawing away with an almost predatory persistence. During the day, she manages to keep herself occupied – work, errands, even socialising. But the night strips away these distractions and pretence, leaving her exposed to the raw, unfiltered truth: she is alone. There is no one to text, no one to call. The warmth of shared moments, the reassuring presence of another heartbeat in the same room, the unspoken comfort of belonging – all of it is gone, swallowed by the abyss of the night.

The room is the same as it was 12 hours ago, yet something about it feels different. In the day, the couch is just a couch, but at 3am, it becomes an island – a vast expanse with no end, no border, no promise of escape. The stillness of the night is suffocating, the silence palpable, pressing in on her like smoke. It is as if the entire universe has receded, leaving her stranded in a void where time slows and emotions loom larger than life, like grotesque and distorted reflections in a circus mirror.

Sarah tries to remind herself that these feelings will subside with the sun's return. But reason has no place in the dead of night. Her mind loops through the same tortured thoughts, revisiting memories like open wounds, replaying moments she wishes she could undo, conversations she wishes had gone differently. The past presents like a phantom. She wants to push it away, then embrace it, but it dissipates in her grasp.

Her body is exhausted – is it even still her body? She shifts restlessly, but no position brings comfort. The minutes crawl, each accented by the clock. This is not mere sadness. This is despair in its most distilled form – a darkness that latches on, whispering that the loneliness she feels now is not just a fleeting moment.
And the worst part? Sarah is not wrong to feel this way. Because in this moment, in this fragile space between midnight and dawn, the world as she knows it has abandoned her. Thoughts, feelings and perceptions really do change in the 'mind after midnight'…
Thoughts

Sarah's inability to shift from despairing rumination to a more adaptive state of mind is not a mere lapse in willpower – it is a reflection of the brain's natural rhythms, which fluctuate throughout the night.

Under normal circumstances, the brain fluidly alternates between two primary networks. The first, the default mode network (DMN), acts as a hub for inwardly focused processes, an agent capable of tying together self-referential thought with introspection, autobiographical memory, bodily sensations, and the emotional weight of past experiences, whether recalled in images, stories, or fleeting impressions in the mind's eye. The second, the task-positive network (TPN), shifts attention outward, enabling focus, problem-solving, and strategic thinking.

In the quiet depths of the night, the seamless transition between these networks short-circuits. The shift becomes sluggish, inefficient, leaving individuals like Sarah trapped in the DMN's grip. Her mind loops through painful memories and hypothetical scenarios, each thought tightening the grip of distress further.

This vulnerability is not unique to Sarah; research indicates that nighttime wakefulness is strongly linked to suicidal ideation, likely because the brain's ability to regulate emotional distress and shift perspective is at its weakest during these hours. In this moment, Sarah's anguish feels absolute – not because she is doomed to suffer, but because, in the altered neurobiological state of the night, escape feels impossible.

Even if Sarah tries to redirect her thoughts onto something constructive, with her brain attempting to shift into the task-positive network (TPN), it, too, is effectively compromised, running at its lowest capacity and sputtering during these late hours. Research suggests that executive function – the flexible cognitive toolkit that the TPN uses to help us self-regulate and stick with behaviours that will help us reach our goals – is naturally impaired during the night, with attentional control and problem-solving becoming further eroded by sleep loss. As a result, the brain's ability to regulate impulses weakens, leaving individuals more vulnerable to emotional overwhelm, particularly when processing difficult personal experiences. For Sarah, her difficult personal experiences now feel sharper, harder to contain, and nearly impossible to reframe.
Sarah's feelings

At 3:30am, Sarah remains on her couch, ensnared in a psychological state dictated by the intricate interplay of circadian rhythms, sleep deprivation, and nocturnal wakefulness. The fog she experiences is more than just fatigue; it is the result of disrupted neurobiological processes that regulate both the 'cognition of mood' and the 'mood of cognition'. As the night deepens, her emotional resilience decays, following well-documented patterns in sleep science.

Research consistently shows that negative affect intensifies in the late-night hours, particularly around the circadian nadir – the point when core body temperature reaches its lowest level and psychological vulnerability peaks. This internal shift manifests outwardly in behaviour. Large-scale linguistic analyses of social media posts across the world reveal a striking universal pattern: words associated with distress, hopelessness, and emotional turmoil all surge between midnight and 4am, regardless of cultural or geographic differences.

Even more concerning, a study of over 10,000 adults found that suicidal ideation follows a similar trajectory, beginning to rise after 1am and peaking between 3 and 5. This alignment suggests that wakefulness during the midnight hours amplifies emotionally-fueled cognitive distortions and mood instability, leaving individuals more susceptible to distressing – and increasingly irrational – thoughts.

Interestingly, controlled sleep deprivation studies demonstrate that even in otherwise healthy individuals without difficult personal circumstances, the absence of sleep exacerbates mood deterioration at night. Prolonged wakefulness heightens emotional reactivity and lowers frustration tolerance, magnifying our negative feelings. Neuroimaging research further reveals that sleep loss amplifies activity in the amygdala – the brain's primary threat detection centre – while weakening connectivity with parts of the task-positive network (TPN) responsible for regulating emotional responses in real time. The result is a brain primed for fear and unable to manage it, especially of bad things that might come true.

All told, Sarah's inability to 'think straight' is a neurobiological inevitability. The very circuits necessary for cognitive clarity and emotional resilience are temporarily compromised by sleep deprivation, compounded by the inherent psychological vulnerabilities of being awake at the circadian nadir in the middle of the night. Most people never notice these disruptions because they are asleep when such vulnerabilities arise. But for Sarah, in the stillness of the coming early morning, her thoughts – already burdened by grief – take on a catastrophic weight that may feel unbearable.
Fleeting perceptions

By 3:45 AM, Sarah's brain is under siege from mounting sleep pressure – the physiological drive to sleep that has been steadily building with every hour she's remained awake. Though she can't fully fall asleep, her brain may be slipping in and out of the lightest stages of sleep, only to jolt back into wakefulness moments later. Because people typically don't recall entering the first stage of sleep, Sarah remains unaware of these brief transitions. But that doesn't mean they aren't affecting her perception.

When sleep becomes highly fragmented, people may begin to experience what are known as hypnagogic hallucinations – vivid sensory experiences that occur as the brain hovers between sleep and wakefulness. During attempts to enter deeper sleep, the brain may begin to dream. If a person wakes suddenly during this process, fragments of the dream can linger in consciousness, blending with reality. It's a state in which the boundaries between the internal and external worlds begin to blur.

In Sarah's case, this might mean reaching toward a figure from her past – a shadowy image of her spouse. Perhaps for a moment, her mind entertains the possibility that the divorce never really happened, and she's waking to the sound of the front door opening, her partner finally coming home late from work, ready to make amends. These illusions aren't delusions; they are a testament to the powerful, disorienting effects of sleep pressure colliding with emotional vulnerability.

As dawn approaches, Sarah's brain will slowly regain its capacity to shift between networks, allowing her thoughts to move beyond the gravitational pull of the DMN. The first hints of morning light will cue subtle neurobiological changes – her circadian rhythm nudging the brain toward sustained arousal and greater efficiency in transitioning between introspection and engagement. With this shift, the task-positive network will begin to reassert itself, making space for more adaptive cognition.

The same memories that felt insurmountable in the dead of night may seem less oppressive, more malleable, as if distance has softened their edges. This is not to say that the pain of loss will vanish with the sunrise, but rather that her brain will once again have access to the cognitive tools necessary for perspective, problem-solving, and, eventually, healing. Though the night magnifies feelings of sorrow, the morning offers proof that emotions, no matter how overwhelming, are transient – ebbing and flowing in tandem with the intricate rhythms of the brain itself.
Nighttime isolation: A historical perspective

Sarah's overwhelming sense of loneliness may, in part, reflect an evolutionary mismatch between modern sleep habits and the social patterns embedded in human history. Anthropological evidence suggests that our ancestors did not sleep in the solitary, uninterrupted fashion common in much of the modern West. Instead, they often practised segmented sleep–waking during the night to talk, tend fires, engage in rituals, or simply connect with others. In many tribal and preindustrial societies, nighttime was a socially dynamic period filled with storytelling, communal bonding, and spiritual practices.

Even today, many traditional societies maintain nighttime routines that foster connection and shared experience. Among the Warlpiri people of Australia, for instance, families sleep communally, and nightly interactions are central to social life. Conversations, storytelling, and group vigilance against threats are woven into their evening rhythms, cultivating both safety and emotional intimacy. Similarly, among the Asabano of Papua New Guinea, the night is a time for connection rather than withdrawal. Extended conversations stretch through the dark hours, reflecting a cultural expectation that nighttime should be socially rich. This communal orientation reinforces ties among community members and strengthens shared norms and values.

For the Maori of New Zealand, sleeping practices are deeply interwoven with cultural and spiritual life. Central to this is the wharenui, or ancestral meeting-house – a communal sleeping structure that doubles as a socio-spiritual centre. Every aspect of the building carries symbolic meaning: the ridgepole represents the spine, the rafters the ribs, and the structure as a whole serves as a living embodiment of ancestral presence.

The wharenui not only reflects Maori resistance to colonial forces but also reinforces cultural continuity and sovereignty. While modern housing has brought private sleep spaces into daily life, the wharenui remains vital during ceremonial events such as funerals and weddings, acting as a bridge between tradition and the present.

Nighttime sociality is also central among the Nuer, a pastoralist people of South Sudan. After sunset, Nuer communities gather around small fires to exchange stories, debate lineage histories, and discuss matters of communal concern. The cool evening air makes this time particularly inviting for dialogue. These gatherings span generations, as elders pass down oral traditions, and younger members absorb lessons in identity, kinship, and moral conduct. Singing, light dancing, courtship rituals, and joking animate these scenes, creating a warm and intimate atmosphere that nurtures social cohesion.

Among the !Kung of the Kalahari Desert, the boundary between ritual and casual social interaction is fluid. Their trance dances, performed in response to illness or injury, serve both spiritual and communal purposes. Healing dances are typically intense and shorter, while celebratory ones – triggered by events like rainfall, successful hunts, or visiting groups – are more relaxed and social in nature.

Both are accompanied by 'firelight talk', a uniquely intimate mode of overnight conversation involving mixed groups of men, women, and children. These discussions help resolve tensions around sensitive issues such as food sharing or infidelity and offer space for emotional honesty and, ultimately, reconciliation.

Unlike daytime interactions, which often revolve around practical concerns, nighttime conversations in these societies are more reflective and emotionally resonant. People share dreams, recount personal experiences, and express feelings with openness and empathy. Among the !Kung, storytelling is a central nighttime practice. Elders pass down myths, legends, and personal narratives that transmit moral values, preserve historical memory, and reinforce a collective identity. These stories are not only entertainment; they are tools for teaching, healing, and guiding decisions that affect the group as a whole.

Co-sleeping arrangements were also common in medieval Europe, where households shared beds and engaged in periodic nighttime activities. The Western shift toward private, uninterrupted sleep largely emerged alongside industrialisation, with artificial lighting and rigid work schedules restructuring the way people experience the night. This historical shift may help explain why modern nighttime solitude can sometimes feel profoundly unnatural.
The consequences of nocturnal distress

The psychological vulnerability of nighttime wakefulness has real-world consequences. Research shows that suicides occur disproportionately between 2am and 4am, after adjusting for the number of people typically awake during those hours. Similarly, other high-risk behaviours – such as substance abuse and impulsive violence—also tend to spike during the night. Opioid overdoses, for example, are nearly five times more likely to occur in the middle of the night, while alcohol cravings often peak in the early morning hours. Studies further indicate that nighttime wakefulness amplifies aggression and increases the likelihood of violent incidents, including homicides.

Taken together, these findings underscore how the night can be a particularly perilous time, especially for individuals already trying to cope with emotional distress or impaired judgment.
What can we do?

Understanding the psychological and physiological risks of nighttime wakefulness is the first step toward mitigating its negative effects. One important strategy is to acknowledge that thoughts and emotions may be distorted at night; recognising that feelings of hopelessness or catastrophising are often amplified during these hours can help prevent impulsive or harmful decisions.

Establishing a consistent sleep routine – by going to bed and waking at the same time each day – reinforces circadian stability and reduces the likelihood of being awake at night. Minimising exposure to artificial light, especially blue light from screens, is also crucial, as it suppresses melatonin production and disrupts sleep. Dimming lights in the evening and avoiding screens for at least an hour before bed can support a smoother transition to sleep.

If you do wake up during the night, it's helpful to engage in soothing, non-stimulating activities – such as reading, practising deep breathing, or listening to calming music – rather than turning to screens or social media. Since nighttime wakefulness often coincides with feelings of isolation, seeking social support can also be valuable. Regular check-ins with friends or participation in online support communities during the day can foster a sense of connection and emotional reassurance, especially for those experiencing chronic loneliness. For individuals grappling with insomnia or challenging personal circumstances, these social interactions may help buffer the negative effects of nighttime wakefulness, offering a stabilising sense of support when it's most needed.
Finding meaning in the night

The night has long been a time for introspection, creativity, and deep human connection. Rather than seeing nighttime wakefulness solely as a problem to be fixed, we might consider how to integrate our ancestral tendencies for nocturnal socialisation into modern life in a way that supports well-being. Perhaps by reimagining how we engage with the night – both individually and as a society – we can transform it from a time of loneliness (and sometimes distress) into one of connection and healing.

For Sarah and countless others who find themselves awake in the dead of night, understanding the psychological forces at play can be empowering. By recognising how the mind changes after midnight, implementing strategies to mitigate its risks, and advocating for societal adaptations, we can navigate the darkness, step by step, with greater resilience.

Fabian-Xosé Fernandez is an Associate Professor of Psychology at the University of Arizona.
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